Negative thinking patterns like worry or fear can be very intrusive and even addictive. An undisciplined mind can run wild, but it is reassuring to know that it can be calmed and focused and become our best friend. Many people feel that their mind is in control of them but it needn’t be that way; our mind is a wonderful tool for us to use, not the other way around.
Negative habits of thinking can be seen as an opportunity to practice something new; because anything that has been ‘practiced in’ can be ‘practiced out’. In other words, all negative thoughts and beliefs we have, no matter how strong or real they seem to be, have been repetitively practiced into our minds over time; we have thought about them over and over. And in this same way, we can practice in more positive ones. ‘Practice’ is the key word here.
Example: My mind is a wonderful tool for me to use. I am in control of my mind. I begin to choose thoughts that make me feel good. I begin to dwell on thoughts that feel good when I think them. Like drops of water my positive affirmations build up to create a sea of beneficial and uplifting thoughts and beliefs. Choosing good-feeling thoughts becomes easier and easier for me.
Be sure to be kind and patient with yourself as you begin to change your thinking. Thoughts like ‘this is impossible’ or ‘I can’t do it’ may surface; this is a normal part of the process- especially if you want to believe something that has not been done before or society thinks is ‘difficult’ to make happen. Persevere and keep it up, always accepting yourself as you are and where you are right now. At the beginning, when you have quite a mental struggle going on (of old thoughts of criticism or doubt vs the new successful affirmations) it is easy to give up and give in to the old ways but don’t do it!
Remember, it is only ever a thought you are dealing with. And a thought can be changed.
Example: I am kind and patient with myself. I am doing fine. I can like myself exactly as I am, knowing that where I am is temporary. Everything I need comes to me. Supportive people and techniques come to me at the perfect time. I am divinely guided and assisted in all things and in all ways. I am perfect where I am and constantly changing for the better. I know I can do this. I am a positive thinker. I look for good wherever I go. I easily expect the best in life. It is only a thought and a thought can be changed!
Like any new behaviour- whether it be learning to ride a bike or to drive a car, it takes practice for you to ‘get it’ and for the new pattern to become easy and automatic. I remember when I had my first few driving lessons I thought I would never be able to drive. But one day, after many hours of practice, it all came together. In one moment driving was easy and effortless. It was as if a switch was flicked and I just ‘got it’. We may fall down many times when we learn anything new… But we can keep getting up and getting on with it. Then, sometime soon we’ll ‘get it’. With a little effort and self-discipline, your new thoughts will build up and ‘tip the balance’ and the new habit will be internalised; that is it will become part of your automatic nature.
Example: I can be someone who expects the best. I can be someone who dwells on positive thoughts of abundance, love, beauty and success. It is becoming easy for me to choose only thoughts that feel good.
It is good to know that just as worrisome thoughts can be addictive, so can thrilling thoughts or thoughts of beauty and abundance. With practice you will create good-feeling habits which will transform your way of looking at life. Remember you don’t have to be ‘perfect’, but there is a need for consistency much like going to the gym. You can do one push up every six months or you can do twenty every day- but your results will be very different. It is exactly the same with this mental work. With a little bit of effort every day, before long (it only takes weeks or months to replace decades of negativity) your new thoughts will have flourished into a garden of abundant thoughts and beliefs. You will become fixated on your dreams and obsessed with success and fun and optimism in all things. And almost as a bonus to this joyful feeling, the Law of Attraction will bring you wonderful manifestations to match your new good-feeling state of mind.